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Happy Endings

Happy Endings

Don’t anticipate the end of every activity just enjoy all the many many starts.

Be Soft

Be Soft

The great Kurt reminds us that there is nothing special about being jaded and hard. seeing the world with happiness will always make you happier than viewing the world with sarcasm.

Don’t Forget…

Don't Forget...

I like thinking about this when I feel a little down about my day-to-day situations because it reminds me that not everything makes it into your life unless you consciously choose to make it part of your life. It’s important not to be lazy about your habits in order to be the best person you can become so don’t forget to choose to be the person you want to be.

The Tragic Case of Lebron James: A Theory About Excessive Athleticism

Also, read this. It’s not by me but it’s one of my favorite articles of 2012 by Stephen Roper. http://thepettypulpit.tumblr.com/post/23697711419/the-tragic-case-of-lebron-james-a-theory-about

By: Stephen Roper

I’ve never met Lebron James in person, but my ‘introduction’ to him during my junior year of high-school played a somewhat pivotal role in the trajectory my life would eventually unfurl. … … I’ll explain.

It’s not something I dwell on all that often since it’s depressing on a variety of levels to think about, but Lebron James and I are the same age (27 years old). I know this because it was during my junior year of high school—when he himself was a junior in high school—that we became acquainted. I learned about him at a time when basketball consumed my life in a much different way than it does now, when I was not fan or enthusiast, but player of the game for my high-school. I’d wormed my way into the starting line-up by that time and had my sights set on becoming a college player, even allowing in times of extreme reverie the hope of attaining an athletic scholarship. Lofty? Sure—maybe even delusional—but in my head I was a junior starting on a formidable team, which meant I had another whole year to really assert myself, get coaches’ attention, and by that time I could sprout up a few more feet/inches and, as I honestly imagined it, go to Furman or Davidson or a D2 school like Wingate and sit the bench and be happy doing so.

Then I heard about the ‘phenom’ from Akron, the next MJ, the future of the NBA, the one-and-only Lebron James and, having never seen him, scoffed. Balked even. See, I knew, or felt I knew, that assessing skill and ‘potential’ was more or less an ‘eye-test’ when it came to recruiting. This belief stemmed from years of playground ball where the biggest and fastest and most physically imposing weren’t always the ‘ballers’ their appearance suggested. Sure, they could dunk or hit five shots in a row with no one around, but when it came time to play and people were moving at full-speed there was no hiding behind the nice shoes or headbands or tattoos or Iversonian-sleeves or whatever: either you could play or you couldn’t. In fact, I’d gone to great lengths to subvert this playground caste system by wearing New Balances and high socks and basically look like a Big Bang Theory reject hoping to shoot some hoops. And it worked! If I was even picked to play—in and of itself no small feat—I was inevitably guarded by the weakest link on the opposing team, yet slowly but surely defensive assignments would change until I was up against the alpha dog’s best impression of Bruce Bowen, i.e. I was ‘locked up’ by the other team’s top player. Anyways, as word spread of a guy my age getting national attention for playing the sport I loved, I felt like he was another guy that looked good in basketball attire and could handle the ball and shoot threes and, of course, dunk.    

But then I saw him, this 17 year-old ‘kid’ named Lebron. I can’t quite remember the footage of him I first viewed, but I can vividly recall what it was I felt:

1)      Awe: I’d seen kids that were 12-13 years old with full beards (thanks, Asheville Middle School), I’d seen kids 14-15 years old dunk (here’s looking at you, UNC Summer Camp), and I’d seen what top recruits to decent D1 schools looked like (shout out to Furman recruitment camp!). Lebron, at age 17, looked… Well, he just looked like he was already a superstar in the NBA, moreso than any college player I’d watched on TV or anyone I’d ever played against or, really, just anyone. But more than awe, I felt…

2)      Dejection: Looking at a fellow 17 year old do what Lebron did on those Youtube clips felt like what I imagine a student filmmaker entering their first festival and seeing someone their same age—with the same budget and same tools—enter The Godfather must feelit was humblingand put things in perspective, revealing how much of a pipe dream my wildest ambitions really were. That was what a basketball player looked like. That was what college coaches and NBA coaches and people in general were looking for when they looked for a basketball player. That was why I’d never get a scholarship.

Now that’s not to say I gave up basketball or my hopes of playing in college immediately after seeing Lebron for the first time, but they were tempered considerably to the point of me wiling away free time not with jump-shots but writing and reading. The point is, upon seeing him my life was different. It’s kind of weird to type that, but it’s true, and while he has enjoyed far more fame and financial success than me I can’t help but feel like he did me a service and, at the same time, feel sorry for the guy.  

Why the pity? Because the thing that altered the trajectory of my life is the same reason why Lebron, now, is still overly critiqued and ridiculed: his athleticism. To be more specific, Lebron James—while widely considered the best player in the NBA (his recent MVP award validates that)—is still maligned for one thing: his inability to ‘close’ games. For many, Lebron’s greatest weakness is his proclivity for shrinking away from the ‘big moments,’ his sudden absence at the end of the game when his team needs him most. While he’s had some great finishes—the game-winning three against Orlando during Game 2 of the 2009 conference finals and his basketball display against Detroit where he scored 29 of his team’s 30 final points in the 2007 conference finals come to mind—many still contend that for Lebron to truly cement his legacy as one of the best NBA players ever he needs more than MVP awards and All-Star nods, he needs…well, obviously he needs a ring, but he also needs to become a ‘clutch’ player and develop that ‘killer instinct.’ From what I read/hear, the one thing naysayers continually harp on (no championships notwithstanding) is how he seems to physically change when games get close; biting his fingernails during timeouts, hiding in the corner away from the action on the final play, and deferring to ‘lesser’ teammates instead of taking the final shot himself have all been used as indicators for highlighting and supporting Lebron’s one apparent weakness.  

And what does Lebron’s athleticism have to do with this inability to close games? Think for a second about the top ‘finishers’ in basketball, the guys that you’d want to have the ball in their hands with your team down one and ten seconds left in the game. My list* (in no particular order) goes something like this:

1)      Michael Jordan

2)      Kobe Bryant

3)      Robert Horry

4)      Kareem Abdul-Jabbar

5)      Carmelo Anthony

6)      Larry Bird

7)      Chauncey Billups

8)      Ray Allen/Paul Pierce

9)      Allen Iverson

10)   Tim Duncan

Honorable Mention: Kevin Durant, Isiah Thomas, Chris Paul, Dwyane Wade, Reggie Miller… I’m obviously out of my league here.

*I know there are a lot of others out there, but I don’t know enough about basketball in the 70’s and 80’s to pick anyone other than Mr. Sky Hook himself, Kareem, and the great white hope that was Larry Bird. … I’m not f’ing Bill Simmons.**

**Though I feel like a guy named ‘Big Games James’ i.e. James Worthy should be on there…somewhere.

Lebron doesn’t make this list—yet—not because he’s incapable of closing out games (again: Orlando and Detroit show that’s not the case) but because of his athleticism. Look at that list. Notice anything about the players on it (aside from the people you feel are inexcusably missing)? Other than Bird, Anthony, and Pierce all of these players played, at most, two different positions. Jordan and Bryant were always shooting guards even if they were down on the post, and Duncan was always a power forward even when he played center. Bird, Anthony, and Pierce played 3-4 positions (the role of point forward makes it tricky) but they still, for all intents and purposes, were small forwards that needed the offense to run through them, i.e. they still played their small-forward position albeit with a little more ball handling and distributing.

OK Stephen, great, but what does that have to do with Lebron’s ‘life-changing’ athleticism?Well Lebron, at any given moment, goes from point guard to center to small forward to power forward and—when Wade isn’t on the floor—shooting guard. At 6’8 and 250’ish lbs. with the speed of a wide receiver he’s blessed with an ability to be everything at any time and this is what hurts him at crunch time. Jordan and Kobe, with five seconds left, had only to get by a man for a quick pull-up, or back their guy down for a fade-away, or heave a desperate three from the top of the key because those were the tools they’d honed from playing their position the whole game/their entire life. Kareem needed only an inch to release his sky-hook because, again, that’s what he’d been doing the whole game. Duncan? Bank-shots and post-moves. Nowitzki? Tear-drop fade-aways. Billups and Ray Allen and A.I. found their groove either behind the arc or with pull-ups (or drawing fouls) in the lane and knew that’d be their go-to move in crunch time because they did it all game. And then there’s Robert Horry, who never met a corner three he didn’t like. My point is this: every one of these players, no matter their position, had specific roles and specific sets of skills they could tap into with ten seconds left since, again, they’d been using those skills all game. With that consistent use came honing and refining so that at the end of the game, when defense is cranked up to 11 and the slightest miscalculation means losing, an on-the-fly recalibration was not only possible but par for the course and the result wasn’t a clank off the rim but a swish or bank shot or whatever. Lebron,because of his athleticism, doesn’t have that luxury.

There’s an early episode of The Office when Michael Scott compares basketball to jazz and, really, it’s spot-on. No game, in my mind, is more fluid or open to improvisation. If we were to go with this jazz analogy real quick, I personally would be a one-note player (read: cowbell), a guy that hangs out around the perimeter, flares away from defenders that collapse into the paint, and relies on someone giving me the ball when I’m open. Tim Duncan would be a drum set, providing a bevy of percussive rhythms/implementing a variety of post-up moves that’d get the job done. And someone like Jordan or Kobe is a guitar, capable of posting guys up, creating shots for teammates (when they want), driving into the lane for a dunk, or firing off a three from beyond the arc. Lebron? Lebron is an entire f’ing band. He can do anything he wants at any time. When you’re as athletically gifted as he is you see the court differently, assess lanes and openings with more intensity because, feasibly, you can exploit those—not many people can look at the court and see 6, 7, 30 viable options for scoring every time they touch the ball, but he can and, again, that’s to his detriment. Because of his versatility he’s a jack-of-all-trades and a master of none. Sure, he could just go onto the court with ten seconds left and say to himself ‘I’m driving to the elbow and shooting a fade-away’ or ‘I’ll go with my left and see if I can’t get to the baseline to post-up’ but it’s hard to do that with confidence when you haven’t been honing and refining those skills all game. And who knows what the defense will do/anticipate?

At the risk of beating a dead horse into the ground, I want to compare Lebron James’s plight to a participant on Iron Chef. You read that right, I’m using an entertaining cooking show for an analogy describing Lebron’s clutch time predicament. Now, let’s say Lebron isn’t an internationally renowned basketball player but instead a celebrity chef and on Iron Chef he has to make four different dishes or, in basketball terms, he needs to score (1), rebound (2), distribute the ball (3), and play top-notch defense (4). Chef B, on the other hand, is only tasked with making two dishes (scoring and defense). Let’s also say, just to drive the point home, that Lebron has a fully stocked kitchen, i.e. he has an oven, grill, crock-pot, etc. (or his multitude of weapons) while Chef B only has a grill (he can shoot well and intercepts passing lanes on defense). With me? Is this a little too convoluted? Now—for the sake of this ridiculous hypothetical—let’s say Lebron and Chef B tie. Lebron and Chef B turn in their dishes and the judges simply can’t decide who created the better meal, but—they all agree—there can be no tie. So, everyone decides, there’ll be a cook-off and the two contestants will cook one more dish with the tools and ingredients they’ve already used. Am I wrong in thinking that Chef B has the advantage? He a) knows that he can only use a grill and b) used (hypothetically) less ingredients to make his dishes, thus he can delve even deeper and explore/enhance the strengths of his grill and ingredients with his overtime dish. Lebron, on the other hand, has a myriad of cooking devices and ingredients to choose from and, I’d guess, be overwhelmed considering he has to make a decision quickly then act on that decision without second guessing himself. Chef B doesn’t have the pitfall of second-guessing since he’s equipped with only a grill and two dishes’ worth of ingredients, while Lebron might fret over whether or not the dish should be charred, or slow-cooked, or baked and if it should be spiced with cayenne or black pepper or whatever. Only in rare instances (read: Detroit 2007 conference finals) does the cocktail of numerous cooking techniques and a myriad of ingredients fall into place for a perfect ‘clutch time’ dish, but most of the time there are just too many variables, too many options, for anything to work out in such a pressure situation.*

*Thank you for humoring me with that analogy. Hopefully someone got my point…

In my opinion, no other super-athlete in the history of the NBA has encountered a ‘problem’ quite like this. Wilt Chamberlain?  Yes, he was an athletic monster compared to those around him but was always a center and had specific skills (read: overwhelming size and height) he could tap into at the end of a game. Magic Johnson? Probably the closest comparison to Lebron there is since he was known to play all five positions, and Magic wasn’t considered a great clutch player either (his famous hook shot against Boston notwithstanding) but a better facilitator. Dwight Howard is even more physically imposing than Lebron but, again, is relegated solely to the role of center and thus has specific moves he can revert to should the Orlando Magic be desperate enough to utilize him at the end of the game. Pippen was an athletic specimen himself, but he had Jordan to rely on and—as far as my 27 year old brain can recall—didn’t endure the scrutiny or criticism Lebron does for not being clutch. No, Lebron is in a league by himself because of the way he looks and moves and until he gets a ring the doubt and cynicism will only increase, which isn’t entirely fair. Because his skills are so ridiculously diverse he’s not meant to be a closer—which is why I, personally, feel like he teamed up with Wade (a closer) in Miami—and shouldn’t be punished for it. Jordan wasn’t a good baseball player, Kobe isn’t a very good teammate, and Lebron isn’t a closer with a killer instinct—it’s just not something they are. But because Lebron arrived with such fanfare and the burden of being the second coming of MJ, the comparisons and criticisms are inevitable and, in my opinion, unjust.

I’m neither fan nor hater of Lebron James. I’m, as Nike so eloquently put it, a witness. And all I’ve witnessed from King James thus far is the weight of that crown on his head.

A DIY Rom-Com

Previously published on: http://thepettypulpit.tumblr.com/post/16195155263/a-diy-rom-com

By: Jessy Graeber

Ever read the book Stuff White People Like? Watched the oh-so-popular clip ‘Shit Girls Say’? Seen Pretty in PinkFerris Bueller’s Day OffWhen Harry Met SallyShe’s All That10 Things I Hate About YouShe’s Out of My LeagueLove and BasketballMy Best Friend’s WeddingThere’s Something About MarySay AnythingHigh FidelitySerendipityVicky Christina Barcelona16 CandlesRomancing the StoneOverboard?

There are so, so, many more where that came from but let me get to my point: I’m 25; Female; Professional; and Living Alone for the First Time. Basically, my life possesses several essential components necessary for any “great” romantic comedy.

So Monday there I am, sitting in my wood-floored living room, eating Chinese takeout on the floor, simultaneously working and texting my long-distance boyfriend, slowly realizing that I am, in fact, not unique. I am a Rom-Com. I fit squarely into the generalizations observed by my peers about 20-something professionals. For example: reading Stuff White People Like, I cracked it open thinking I’d fall just outside of the norm. If the list of likes were a box-and-whisker plot, I fully expected to be in the lower quartile as less than half of my likes would coincide with the things that other white people liked. Long story short – I stopped reading after the 5th chapter because I felt so transparent. Yes, I do like farmers’ markets. I think Conan O’Brien is witty. Camping is a great way to get away from it all. I have promised (multiple times) to learn a new language or two. Ugly sweater parties make me feel cool. I have and am proud to have gay friends. I think bicycles are hip AND economical. I make self-aware hip hop/pop culture references and am pleased with myself. I LOVE brunch and prefer microbrews. After/during travel my friends and I use the word “awareness” repeatedly. I practice yoga. I have a black friend. I use said black friend as a culture/hip hop/political correctness reference. I probably make people feel bad about not going outside. And I have definitely purchased over-priced athletic apparel to foster my desire to workout. The list goes on and on. I can’t even expound on ‘Shit Girls Say’ because, sadly, I’m guilty of 99% of those words.

I was faced with the choice of either flinging my Chinese food carton away from me in my haste to change everything about myself – or – laugh at my predictability and hope someone else could see the humor (unfortunately both these reactions are extremely predictable in a 25-year old female, so I can’t turn this into a triumph over stereotypes either way). In an easy 5-step program you can basically turn all your vanilla-interests into a recipe for your own little rom-com. I can’t promise you’ll find John Cusack outside your window or that your best friend will suddenly turn into the man of your dreams (and as I am currently sitting alone on my bed waiting for my long-distance boyfriend to catch a flight and surprise me on my door step – flowers and puppy in-hand – I would take them with a grain of salt). Life isn’t a movie; but you can sure try.

1. Create the Scene:

As in: select slightly hippy, grown-up furniture to place around your apartment (which, preferably, has one wall of exposed brick). Then make sure you have a movie selection that appeals to both males and females in case your potential soul-mate should take it as a sign that you ‘both own copies of the Transformer movies’ (!).

You can also find opportunities to create the perfect Rom-com scene out of stuff you already have. My example of eating Chinese on the wood floor with my computer screen shining work documents back at me and my iPhone sitting beside me buzzing with each long-distant text could have been the opening scene for the next great love-story. This can apply to any food you can eat while sitting on the floor (think: ice cream, a box of cookies, plates of cheese and crackers, or even a simple glass of wine.) Just imagine this first opening bit transforming into the final scene where you peacefully cook a gourmet dinner together and share it by candlelight.

For guys, also think about creating an environment where a female would want to nurture you. Wet towel on the bathroom floor? Leave it there. Pantry full of boxed noodle mixes and old bread? She’ll want to feed you. Make sure if you do sit on the floor to eat, you blare ESPN and don’t turn on any lights. This leaves the potential lover to improve your life in ways you never imagined – or wanted.

2. Make Yourself Available

Phone calls, Skype, IM, texting – guys and girls love it when you are there 24/7. It really fits in with a busy schedule. Obviously his/her work is more important than yours so suck it up and sext while you focus on that deadline.

3. Leave Room for that Special Someone

Maybe throw out some of your clothes “just in case” your love interest/neighbor/pizza delivery person, wants to settle down and leave a bunch of their crap in your way. Perhaps a drawer in the bathroom could be reserved for a future tenant of the apartment? You never know what kind of stuff a person is going to want around when s/he’s spending time with you, so be sure you’re ready to accommodate any crazy item that comes with the package.

4. Repetition is Key

The more you do something the more likely it is that s/he will show up with exactly the right timing to see you at your most intelligent + most feminine/masculine. So make sure that when you’re studying or reading Les Miserables you’re wearing your cutest lounge clothes (shirtless and jacked works well for most men) and the smallest amount of makeup. Always be prepared.*

*This applies to working out as well. Previously mentioned expensive workout clothes are extremely important if the person who finds you is at all interested in physical fitness.

5. Wait

The pushy ones always have to wait the longest. It’s the same in every movie. The quiet shy friend of the main character is married and has two kids while the vibrant leading lady and man are struggling to put their lives together. Don’t try to have everything. Career and family don’t mix, as the movies have taught us.

The Skyfall Solution

Previously published by: http://thepettypulpit.tumblr.com/post/42333553848/the-skyfall-solution

By: Jessy Graeber

This writing is about gun safety; but more importantly it’s about the human capacity to imagine and create amazing and wonderful tools for gun safety.

No matter what your individual position on gun violence happens to be, most people in America saw and loved Skyfall. As a whole it may embody the glorification of violence that is being attacked right now in our culture but, broken into parts, it may prove useful in providing some long term discussion points in favor of a safer America.

Right now the whole world is weighing and judging what Vice President Biden and his team have put together as a solution for decreasing gun violence. Solutions on the table include closing private gun sales, making mental health care more readily available, prohibiting the sale of extended clips and assault style rifles, and more. Because of the dark nature of the latest shootings, mental illness has been tied intimately with gun violence and will be a sticking point for policy makers appeasing both sides of this debate.

I’d like to applaud all Americans for being open to compromise on the issue and re-thinking the ways in which society enables unwell individuals by claiming help is unavailable. It is admirable to be attacking the issue from two sides.

Even these two sides, however, are not enough to prevent a legally purchased firearm from being intended for or borrowed by a friend or relative for violent ends, which is known as “straw purchase sales” according to a PBS Frontline article by the Center for Investigative Reporting and is, according to the author Dan Noyes, one of the most common ways for a criminal to obtain a firearm.

It’s time to think even more outside the tracks of where mental illness leads, where gun rights lead, and where those two intersect. We have examples all around in the creative world for problem-solving and we need to think about the resources and advantages we have that are no longer unbelievable.

It is almost impossible to make an individual person safer. We have free will and even if we are treated for imbalances or illness that can alter personalities or are kept from purchasing our own firearms we know that where there is a will, there is a way. Firearms have no such will. They do the will of the person holding them and in no way interfere with that will. So, in addition to increasing the care of people and our efforts to limit the dangers people pose to other people, why shouldn’t we also take a look at how people use their guns?

If we cannot make people safer, then we must make guns safer.

In California, where I just went through a ropes course of getting a drivers license, there were more obstacles and paperwork than when I have gone to purchase a firearm. I had to prove I was a citizen, prove I had the right to hold the title and registration to a vehicle, prove I was insured, have my photo take, give my finger print, take a practical exam, check my eyesight, pay a fee for the right to be licensed, and pay a fee for the right to drive my car in a new state.

I am not suggesting that we should run gun sales like a DMV, however, let’s take a page from them and from Skyfall and use the simplest form of technology to make our tools more safe.

If not for the protection of a built-in fingerprint activated trigger James Bond would be dead in the bottom of a Komodo dragon cage while worldwide terror was still being carried out on England’s secret police. That would have been a terrible movie.

But guess what: using the best available technology he was able to avoid being killed in the first half hour and instead go on to make a much better movie that everyone could enjoy.

If we can use finger printing to access computers, rooms, driver’s licenses, criminal charges, and medical equipment why can’t we trust this type of security to improve the safety of firearms?

Each person’s fingerprints are completely unique and stay unchanged for a lifetime. And even small databases that could be used on an item the size of a gun can hold multiple finger prints.

The legal purchaser of a firearm would be able to use the piece unconditionally, and if desired physically order that a son, daughter, brother, uncle or wife be fingerprint authorized to use the weapon.

The possibility that we could own any number of guns at our own home and they could never be used against us by a stranger is an extremely exciting idea.

Of course there are people who will be willing to give access to any individual, maybe because they feel family obligation, maybe because they are in denial about the state of mental health, maybe because they do not like the idea of gun access being restricted. However, combined with the proposed background checks, and availability to mental health evaluations our guns would be less of a vulnerable tool for carrying out mass violence or even individual violence.

This is not a solution for every situation; many people who are angry with other people or the world do not have a mental defection that causes them to lash out at family and strangers. Also, many people will turn to other weapons for showing their pain to the world. But with improved gun safety, secure home gun storage, thorough background checks on purchasers and users, increased availability to help for families’ involved with mental illness, and a moral revitalization of the commandment not to do harm to others, America can prevent some of the tragedies inflicted upon ourselves.

Until now, the epic violence of movies has been making its way into the world while none of the wonderful technology or perseverance of the human spirit to do Good has been glorified in the same way and it is unacceptable. 

Bros Brunching

Previously published by: http://thepettypulpit.tumblr.com/post/43628119801/bros-brunching

By: Jessy Graeber

Most of the Bros I know love drinking, bacon, pancakes, bars, waking up late, hanging out with other Bros, and not cooking for themselves. If that sounds like you, it will be a relief to know that the brunching movement is upon us.

Never before has it been normal for two dudes (or five dudes) to casually meet up mid-morning and sit at a table together enjoying all manner of sweet and savory breakfast plates. Well, buckle up Bros because the stigma of brunch is over.

Girls love (love, love, love) brunch. It has always been so. But brunching is not what it first appears. Fruit platters and variety muffins, tea and hot cocoa, small B&B’s with tiny tables and tiny dining rooms are just the mundane front of the brunch organization. Anyone who knows anything about proper brunching can tell you that it is a special culture of its own. Gone are the days of fruit and yogurt parfaits and whole grain toast. Gone are the fruit punches and watered down orange juice. If you don’t see at least three types of benedicts you’re doing it wrong. Just imagine: brioche french toast topped with local blackberry peach compote, or chorizo-new potato goulash with roasted rainbow chard and peri-peri hot sauce topped with a perfectly fried egg over-easy. Hell, dig into this chunky plate: bison burger on challa bun, topped with local baby spinach, sliced buttery avocado, fried egg, and shoestring onion rings and smeared with smoky BBQ aoli…..uuuuugh.

It’s OK to eat. And what was formerly a dirty little secret us girls kept to ourselves is now a proud approved Bro-ing out social activity.

I don’t have to set aside time for day-dates anymore if I want brunch. My boyfriend, who initially was tentative about the whole idea, jumps up with bright eyes at the mere possibility of brunch. Brunch menus now get his attention, and he has a mental check list of the places we have yet to try for a mid-morning meal.

I first started brunching with my brother. I am an only girl and he is the middle child. And if you don’t know that this (clearly) means we love each other but are both highly demanding and slightly selfish individuals then perhaps you and your brother never tried to push each other into a ditch on the way home from school so that you could lock each other out of the house to unload the clean dishwasher, therefore leaving the loading of the filthy dishwasher to the other person. In any case, now that we are adults we brunch.

Now, let’s not confuse brunching and breakfasting, because there is a significant difference. Breakfasting does not allow alcohol consumption (unless you’ve kicked all societal guidelines). Breakfasting occurs in the hours between 6AM and 9:30AM which necessitate that you’ve gotten up with the purpose of doing something productive with your day. Your grandfatherbreakfasts, your Bro brunches. At brunch you can eat anything you want to. ANYTHING. You can combine any meal’s items (burgers with eggs, Mexican and eggs, steak fried like chicken, pancakes with bacon cooked inside), but you cannot do that with breakfast: Burgers are served at lunch, steak at dinner, fried chicken in the south, and bacon…well, I tend to believe that bacon started the whole thing, it goes across the board.

With that said, I have been keeping my eye out for just the thing that is happening now. The other day, I was taking a morning stroll and spotted a table full of baseball caps, hoodies, and facial hair. Not a woman in sight of that table. Just bros out enjoying brunch together. The more I am out mid-morning, the more I see Bros in pairs brunching, Bros in business suits brunching, Bros drinking bottomless mimosas, Bros with their baby and a Bro, Bros in groups. In fact last weekend I myself was out brunching and there were more Bros out together than couples, or co-ed groups.

Not only do Bros get to enjoy some great food, alcohol, and a sports game, but he’ll also most likely be left unmolested by his lady due to the harmless and wholesome reputation brunch maintains. The only downside is that women already love brunch, so Bros must be careful to borrow brunching but never take over brunching or you will find yourself the only guy who brings his girlfriend to a man-date. Bros and brunch will be forced apart just like Bros and TV are forced apart. But the solution is easy. After all, what better way to knock out a one-two combo of girl/guy happiness: wonderful food, company, and entertainment for the lady with wonderful food, company, and usually some sort of sports game for the men. So keep brunching Bros; with your buddies from work, your high school friends, and of course the woman in your life that introduced you to such a glamorous excuse for overeating and day-drinking.

Not only do I love this trend for personal reasons, I also love it because I see men obviously enjoying something not originally accepted by guys and they look truly happy. And I think the world needs more truly happy, filled with gourmet food, surrounded by friends, relaxed, Bros. 

2012 in Pictures: I

The Year in Pictures

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Packed the little Honda for the big move to California. It’s a long drive alone and a big thanks

goes out the Heather and Don Wilson for putting me up in Eugene on my way.

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The best way to get settled is to have great friends visit to play tourist with me! San Francisco was much less

intimidating with friends by your side!

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First day of work!

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So luck to be able to share holidays with great friends in the sunshine. Happy Easter.
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First vacation: Stephen’s Birthday in Hendersonville, NC and my first chance to meet the best friends and wives.

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Expecting a little Lucy to be the awesome aunti to!

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The start to my cozy, happy home in California
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The “repair” job that was done by the thiefs of my little Honda’s catalytic converter. So sad.

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My new little Blossom. Worth every penny, but did cost my mom a trip to the Illuminated Ball, which is is not worth and I will be making up for over the next few years.

Picture Update: hawaii with my Bro Part 2

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In which I show you more pictures of my brother and me having fun in Kauai and you get jealous.

Picture Update: Hawaii with my Bro

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In which I take a vacation with my brother and we let people guess what our connection to each other is.

Part 2 coming 3/19/12

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